The Art of Controlling the Skid
by Jill MacGregor
He’s off and flyin’ as he guns the car around the track
He’s jammin’ down the pedal like he’s never comin’ back
Adventure’s waitin’ just ahead.
Go Speed Racer, Go!
There is some beauty in the blur as things are changing. That smeary moment of endings and beginnings—like runners exchanging a baton—there’s always a little overlap. It’s a time when things are moving fast and new people and situations are being defined. Who and what will be helpful? Is this going to work out? Is this person going to hurt me? Who can I trust?
The information comes at you fast—how do you know what is the right answer?
Sometimes it’s too easy to focus on the things that you fear, allowing them to seep in and color a new situation. You can lose sight of what you want. It can become tough to focus on where you want to go—and so much easier to stay put and hold hands with your fears and doubts.
This is when you need to watch the road and not the wall.
The road is where you want to go. The wall represents everything that will derail you–your worries, your imagined fatal flaws, the fear of how others will disappoint you or you, them. Of course this relationship won’t work out. Of course I’m not going to succeed in this new situation. Of course blahblahblah.
How’s your focus these days? Are you looking at the road or the wall?
What you give is what you get—not only in relationships but in life. Are you churning out a bunch of negativity—possibly out of habit? What would happen—if you replaced your negativity with your bright, shiny hopes, goals and dreams?
Think about it this way. If you fed your sweet pet tainted food, it would get sick, wouldn’t it? So, think about what you’re feeding the Universe with all of those negative thoughts and expectations of doom—because sometimes your thoughts can be poisonous.
Have you created an anticipation for the negative? Are you expecting the worst out of new situations and people? If you are, imagine how that affects your mood, actions and performance and, ultimately, the situation.
It’s time you started focusing on the road.
What it would feel like to spend your time focusing on how you want things to turn out, how you want to succeed and how you want to feel fulfilled instead of worrying about how it’s all going to fall apart? What would happen if you took the time you usually reserve for worry and used it for a bit of visioning?
Imagine what it feels like when things work out the way you want.
What does it feel like when love is returned? What does it feel like when you have success? Happiness?
You are totally in control of this one—if you choose to be. This will help as you re-jigger the “wall” you into the “road” you.
It’s time to begin expecting the best in yourself, others and situations. This is big. If you do this, it’s going to open you up. It’s going to change your expression. And others are going to respond to that. POSITIVELY. This will make everything different.
This is where you let go of fear, the biggest hog tie-er around. In fear’s place, instill trust. Trust that you don’t have to control or be aware of every single aspect of a situation for it to work to your advantage. Say the flower is going to bloom instead of dying on the vine. This kind of thinking will rub a shiny spot on you.
Now’s the time to start saying *how might we* instead of *I can’t/it won’t*. I always search the how might we person out, don’t you? I avoid the can’t/won’t person—nothing ever seems to go anywhere with them in their little world. Please don’t be finite. Your capacity to be wonderful is boundless.
Believe in abundance—instead of scarcity. Since there’s enough for everyone, you will never go without. No one is going to take what’s yours. It’s waiting for you. That is so great, isn’t it?
You’re forgetting about a very important word: deserve. You deserve happiness, love, success and all the things that make it so. Claim it—in fact, demand it. Dare yourself to take a chance on YOU because you are a sure thing. In fact, you’re so spectacular everyone would like seconds…
If you don’t believe it, no one else will either.
Eyes on the road. And ready yourself to receive.
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