Comments on: When People Leave

By: Ralph

Ralph — Sun, 20 Dec 2009 12:43:51 +0000

Its hard when people leave but with the many ways to stay connected these days, its not as bad as it used to be. I remember being in middle school and I moved to a new school over the summer. I lost contact with all of my friends even though It was only about 20 minutes away.
Now, I have a friend who moved to Japan from the US and we are still in contact. And with Facebook, I know whats going on in his life.

By: Pie

Pie — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 00:18:10 +0000

This is a very moving post. I can’t say anything better than what has been expressed by the other commentators, but I will say that we have a much wider range of communicating tools now. So hopefully, once your friend has settled down, she’ll make contact again. Then your pain won’t be so great.

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By: Jill

Jill — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 01:00:41 +0000

Great words of wisdom, Anne! This may be the first time I’ve been on the recieving end of leaving–having been the one who’s moved and left friends behind and I think its just a new feeling for me. But you’re so right—with friends who are now far away the sentiment is *Next Time!* and the plans on the calendar make the day to day much easier.
Thanks for sharing your experience!

By: Anne Nicolai

Anne Nicolai — Sat, 12 Dec 2009 18:27:37 +0000

Having moved rather spontaneously to Mexico more than a year ago (and not to a beach town where my friends want to spend their vacation time, but to a dusty mountain village smack in the middle of the country), I can tell you that on the leaving side, we who go off to pursue our dreams have a different concern: that we’ll be resented, filled-in-for and forgotten. But my close friends haven’t forgotten me any more than I’ve abandoned them. Instead, we’re in a latent state of “next time!” and whenever next time comes, as it has for me now that I’m visiting my family and friends in Minnesota, we make the most of it. The “hasta luegos” after these brief visits are much harder for me than was the big adios, simply because the adventure has become the everday for me now, and I wish I could suck my closest friends and my family into it with me! But they’re here…I’m there…and through email, Skype, blogs, websites and Facebook, we still manage to stay involved in each others’ lives. But more than that–now we also can expand each others’ worlds.

By: Walter

Walter — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 14:51:55 +0000

It’s hard to see our close friends go, and endure alone the feeling of emptiness. Still, change is a manifestation of something better for you and your friend.

By: Jill

Jill — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 07:03:19 +0000

Christy,
Thanks so much for thinking of me. Of course, you would understand having been through it yourself! It is sad to have them leave but I just remind myself of how great this time is going to be for them. I hope you’ll get to see them more often now that they’re closer.
Thanks for your kind words on the blog–I’m so glad you like it!
Take Care,
Jill

By: Christy

Christy — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 01:44:01 +0000

Jill, my heart aches for you when I read this. Since we share this dear friend I know exactly how you are feeling. She and I have parted ways 3 times over the years. I speak from experience when I say that it is never easy, and it is never the same as when we live in the same city; however, true friends never really lose that connection and are always close in our heart (no matter how cheesy that sounds). When she told me the news, one of my first questions was, “How is Jill taking it?” Thank goodness for the digital age we live in now. When she moved away the first time, I remember waiting until the long distance rates dropped in the evening to call! Oh – and getting used to the time difference will be a bitch! You’re bound to call at some crazy time at least once. Take care and I will continue to enjoy your posts. Love, C